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Dr. Beh\u00e7et Uz E\u011fitim ve Ara\u015ft\u0131rma Hastanesi’nde g\u00f6revli Uzman Psikolog Sibel \u00d6zg\u00fcr Vatansever, akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n tesad\u00fcfen ya da kendili\u011finden ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirterek, “Baz\u0131 aileler, \u00e7ocu\u011fun k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ‘\u015eaka yapt\u0131’, ‘\u00d6yle demek istemedi’ diyerek normalle\u015ftirebiliyor. \u00c7ocu\u011fun yanl\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varmas\u0131n\u0131n ve bunu d\u00fczeltmeyi \u00f6\u011frenmesinin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7iliyor. Aileler iyilik yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek fark\u0131nda olmadan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n zorba davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n temellerini olu\u015fturabiliyor” dedi.<\/p>\n
Dr. Beh\u00e7et Uz E\u011fitim ve Ara\u015ft\u0131rma Hastanesi’nde g\u00f6revli Uzman Psikolog Sibel \u00d6zg\u00fcr Vatansever, son g\u00fcnlerde ailelerin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n en s\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 sorunlardan biri haline gelen akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131na ili\u015fkin a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu. Akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa ba\u015fka bir \u00e7ocuk ya da bir grup \u00e7ocuk taraf\u0131ndan uygulanan psikolojik veya fiziksel \u015fiddet olarak tan\u0131mlayan Vatansever, “Bu durumda s\u00fcreklilik ve kas\u0131t vard\u0131r. Rastgele ve bir defaya mahsus de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocuk geli\u015fim s\u00fcreci i\u00e7erisinde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve deneyimledi\u011fi davran\u0131\u015flar sonucunda kendilik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturur. Kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 tan\u0131mlar ve baz\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 yapmaya hakk\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair kanaatler geli\u015ftirir. Zamanla da kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini zorbalayan bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir” dedi. \u00c7ocuklarda sosyal geli\u015fimin 3-6 ya\u015f d\u00f6neminde \u015fekillendi\u011fini vurgulayan Uzman Psikolog Vatansever, “Bu d\u00f6nem, \u00e7ocu\u011fun biricik oldu\u011funu ama grup i\u00e7inde ‘herkes kadar’ oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi d\u00f6nemdir. 7-12 ya\u015f ise kendilik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n olu\u015ftu\u011fu, \u00f6z g\u00fcvenin ve ‘Ben nas\u0131l bir insan\u0131m’ sorusunun yan\u0131tlar\u0131n\u0131n \u015fekillendi\u011fi kritik bir s\u00fcre\u00e7tir” dedi.<\/p>\n
‘ZORBALIK DAVRANI\u015eI \u0130LER\u0130 YA\u015eLARA TA\u015eINAB\u0130L\u0130R’<\/p>\n
Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun 7-12 ya\u015f aral\u0131\u011f\u0131nda edindi\u011fi deneyimlerle kendini ve \u00e7evresini konumland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Vatansever, “E\u011fer \u00e7ocuk k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015ftan itibaren kendi isteklerini her ko\u015fulda ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde tutuyorsa, istedi\u011fini elde etmek i\u00e7in s\u0131n\u0131r tan\u0131m\u0131yorsa ve kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa verdi\u011fi zarar\u0131n fark\u0131nda de\u011filse, bunu i\u00e7selle\u015ftirir. B\u00f6yle bir hakk\u0131 oldu\u011funa inan\u0131r ve bu davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imini \u00f6\u011frenerek ileriki ya\u015flarda da zorba bir bireye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Bu \u015fekilde geli\u015fen bir kendilik alg\u0131s\u0131, ileride bar\u0131\u015f\u00e7\u0131l, insanc\u0131l ve sorumluluk sahibi bir ki\u015filik ortaya koymayacakt\u0131r” ifadelerini kulland\u0131. Zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funlukla denetimsizlik, kurals\u0131zl\u0131k ve yapt\u0131r\u0131m\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ortamlarda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Vatansever, bu noktada en b\u00fcy\u00fck sorumlulu\u011fun ailelere d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n
‘A\u015eIRI KORUYUCU TUTUM DA ZORBALIK ZEM\u0130N\u0130 OLU\u015eTURAB\u0130L\u0130R’<\/p>\n
\u0130ki farkl\u0131 aile yap\u0131s\u0131na dikkat \u00e7eken Uzman Psikolog Vatansever, “Birinci grupta, sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmekte zorlanan ve \u015fiddeti bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yolu olarak kullanan aileler yer al\u0131yor. Bu ailelerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ya \u015fiddete maruz kal\u0131yor ya da buna tan\u0131kl\u0131k ediyor. \u0130kinci grupta ise do\u011frudan \u015fiddet yok ancak a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruyucu ve \u00e7ocu\u011fu her durumda hakl\u0131 g\u00f6ren bir yakla\u015f\u0131m var. Bu aileler, \u00e7ocu\u011fun k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ‘\u015eaka yapt\u0131’, ‘\u00d6yle demek istemedi’ diyerek normalle\u015ftirebiliyor. \u00c7ocu\u011fun yanl\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varmas\u0131n\u0131n ve bunu d\u00fczeltmeyi \u00f6\u011frenmesinin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7iliyor. Aileler iyilik yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek fark\u0131nda olmadan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n zorba davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n temellerini olu\u015fturabiliyor” dedi.<\/p>\n
‘EN TEMEL EBEVEYN DAVRANI\u015eI TUTARLI VE \u0130ST\u0130KRARLI OLMAKTIR’<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocu\u011fun kendilik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n olu\u015ftu\u011fu 7-12 ya\u015f d\u00f6neminde, kendini tan\u0131mlayabilece\u011fi g\u00fcvenli ve destekleyici ortamlar\u0131n \u00f6nemine dikkati \u00e7eken Vatansever, “\u00c7ocu\u011fa yeteneklerini ortaya koyabilece\u011fi alanlar sunulursa, zorbal\u0131k davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 geli\u015ftirmesi beklenmez. Bu nedenle \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n aktif oldu\u011fu, becerilerinin desteklendi\u011fi ortamlar olu\u015fturulmal\u0131” a\u00e7\u0131klamalar\u0131nda bulundu. Her geli\u015fim d\u00f6neminin farkl\u0131 ebeveynlik ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 oldu\u011funu belirten Vatansever, psikolojik destek alman\u0131n yaln\u0131zca sorun ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda de\u011fil, koruyucu ama\u00e7la da \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funa dikkati \u00e7ekip, “Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruhsal ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendiren en temel unsur, sevildi\u011fini ve g\u00fcvende oldu\u011funu hissetti\u011fi, tutarl\u0131 ve istikrarl\u0131 bir aile ortam\u0131d\u0131r. En temel ebeveyn davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 tutarl\u0131 ve istikrarl\u0131 olmakt\u0131r. Bu sayede \u00e7ocuk, d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131 daha h\u0131zl\u0131 fark edebilir” diye konu\u015ftu. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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