\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog Cumali Ayd\u0131n, 14 \u015eubat Sevgililer G\u00fcn\u00fc dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, romantik ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n ne oldu\u011fu, g\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanma stillerinin nas\u0131l ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n nas\u0131l geli\u015ftirilebilece\u011fi hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n
G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma, sevginin s\u00fcreklili\u011fine dair i\u00e7sel bir g\u00fcven hissi olu\u015fturur!<\/strong><\/p>\n Romantik ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n, ki\u015finin hem kendisini hem partnerini de\u011ferli ve g\u00fcvenilir g\u00f6rmesiyle karakterize oldu\u011funu ifade eden Klinik Psikolog Cumali\u00a0Ayd\u0131n, \u201cBu ki\u015filer yak\u0131nl\u0131ktan korkmaz, mesafeden y\u0131k\u0131lmaz ve ili\u015fkide s\u00fcrekli tehdit alg\u0131s\u0131 ya\u015famaz.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma olu\u015fturan ki\u015filerin partneri ak\u015fam yeme\u011fine ge\u00e7 kald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda hemen \u2018beni \u00f6nemsemiyor\u2019 sonucuna varmad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 aktaran Ayd\u0131n, \u201c\u00d6nce ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i a\u00e7\u0131klamalar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Tart\u0131\u015fma ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u2018demek ki bu ili\u015fki bitiyor\u2019 yerine \u2018\u015fu an zorlan\u0131yoruz ama \u00e7\u00f6zebiliriz\u2019 diyebilir. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanan bireylerin daha y\u00fcksek ili\u015fki doyumu, daha d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ve daha yap\u0131c\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma \u00e7\u00f6zme becerileri g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini ortaya koyuyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma, sevginin s\u00fcreklili\u011fine dair i\u00e7sel bir g\u00fcven hissi olu\u015fturur; ki\u015fi sevgiyi kan\u0131tlarla s\u00fcrekli do\u011frulamak zorunda kalmaz.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanmay\u0131 di\u011ferlerinden ay\u0131ran temel fark, duygusal denge ve tutarl\u0131l\u0131k!<\/strong><\/p>\n G\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanma stillerinin ise genellikle kayg\u0131l\u0131, ka\u00e7\u0131ngan ve korkulu-ka\u00e7\u0131ngan olarak \u00fc\u00e7e ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eden Klinik Psikolog Cumali\u00a0Ayd\u0131n, \u201c\u00c7o\u011funlukla erken d\u00f6nem ili\u015fki deneyimlerinden beslenir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n G\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanan birinin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na \u00f6rnekler veren Ayd\u0131n, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n \u201cKayg\u0131l\u0131 ba\u011flanmada ki\u015fi mesajlara ge\u00e7 d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fte yo\u011fun huzursuzluk ya\u015fayabilir, s\u0131k s\u0131k \u2018beni ger\u00e7ekten seviyor musun?\u2019 diye sorabilir, partnerinin sosyal ortamlar\u0131n\u0131 tehdit olarak alg\u0131layabilir. Ka\u00e7\u0131ngan ba\u011flanan biri ise partneri duygusal olarak yak\u0131nla\u015fmak istedi\u011finde konuyu de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir, \u2018bu kadar b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclecek bir \u015fey yok\u2019 diyerek mesafe koyabilir ya da tart\u0131\u015fma an\u0131nda susup geri \u00e7ekilebilir. Korkulu-ka\u00e7\u0131ngan ba\u011flanmada ise ki\u015fi hem yak\u0131nl\u0131k ister hem de incinmekten korktu\u011fu i\u00e7in ani geri \u00e7ekilmeler ya\u015far; bir g\u00fcn yo\u011fun ilgi g\u00f6sterip ertesi g\u00fcn uzakla\u015fabilir. G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanmay\u0131 di\u011ferlerinden ay\u0131ran temel fark, duygusal denge ve tutarl\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r: Ne yap\u0131\u015fma ne de ka\u00e7ma vard\u0131r; sorun oldu\u011funda konu\u015fma ve onarma e\u011filimi vard\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma sabit bir kader de\u011fil, geli\u015ftirilebilir bir s\u00fcre\u00e7!<\/strong><\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n geli\u015ftirilebilir bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7eken Klinik Psikolog Cumali\u00a0Ayd\u0131n, sabit bir kader olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kaydetti.<\/p>\n Ki\u015finin \u00f6nce kendi ili\u015fki \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc \u2018neden hemen terk edilme korkusuna kap\u0131l\u0131yorum?\u2019 ya da \u2018yak\u0131nl\u0131k art\u0131nca neden daral\u0131yorum?\u2019 gibi sorularla fark etmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 aktaran Ayd\u0131n, \u201cArd\u0131ndan duygusal d\u00fczenleme becerileri g\u00fc\u00e7lendik\u00e7e tepkiler yumu\u015far; \u00f6rne\u011fin mesaj ge\u00e7 geldi\u011finde panik yapmak yerine bekleyebilme kapasitesi artar. Terap\u00f6tik s\u00fcre\u00e7ler, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir partnerle kurulan tutarl\u0131 ili\u015fki deneyimi ve a\u00e7\u0131k ileti\u015fim bu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc destekler. G\u00fcveni art\u0131rmak i\u00e7in tutarl\u0131l\u0131k (s\u00f6z\u2013davran\u0131\u015f uyumu), a\u00e7\u0131k duygu payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 (\u2018Sen hep b\u00f6ylesin\u2019 yerine \u2018b\u00f6yle oldu\u011funda kendimi de\u011fersiz hissediyorum\u2019), \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131 onar\u0131m ve empatik dinleme kritik \u00f6nemdedir. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, mutlu \u00e7iftlerin tart\u0131\u015fmas\u0131z de\u011fil; tart\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131 tamir edebilen \u00e7iftler oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterir.\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma, do\u011fru partnerden \u00e7ok ki\u015finin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenleyebilme kapasitesiyle ilgili!<\/strong><\/p>\n Bireyin i\u00e7sel geli\u015fiminin, g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n temel zemini oldu\u011funa vurgu yapan Klinik Psikolog Cumali\u00a0Ayd\u0131n, \u201c\u00d6z-de\u011feri d\u0131\u015f onaya ba\u011fl\u0131 olan biri, partnerinin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir ele\u015ftirisini bile reddedilme olarak alg\u0131layabilir; \u00f6zg\u00fcveni daha sa\u011flam biri ise bunu ki\u015fisel y\u0131k\u0131m olarak ya\u015famaz.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Duygular\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131mayan birinin \u00f6fkesini pasif agresif davran\u0131\u015flarla g\u00f6sterebilece\u011fini; duygusal fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fcksek birinin ise \u2018\u015fu an k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131m\u2019 diyerek do\u011frudan ifade edece\u011fini dile getiren Ayd\u0131n, s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle tamamlad\u0131:<\/p>\n \u201c\u00d6z-\u015fefkat geli\u015ftiren bireyler partnerine kar\u015f\u0131 da daha yumu\u015fak olur, s\u0131n\u0131r koymay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenenler ili\u015fki de daha dengeli kal\u0131r. K\u0131sacas\u0131 g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma yaln\u0131zca do\u011fru partneri bulmakla ilgili de\u011fildir; ki\u015finin kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenleyebilme kapasitesiyle yak\u0131ndan ili\u015fkilidir. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fki, iki m\u00fckemmel insan\u0131n de\u011fil; kendi duygusal sorumlulu\u011funu alabilen iki yeti\u015fkinin kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fkidir.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog Cumali Ayd\u0131n, 14 \u015eubat Sevgililer G\u00fcn\u00fc dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, romantik ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n ne oldu\u011fu, g\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanma stillerinin nas\u0131l ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n nas\u0131l geli\u015ftirilebilece\u011fi hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":32575,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[562,4916,293,2080,4917],"class_list":["post-32574","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-saglik","tag-aydin","tag-baglanma","tag-guven","tag-iliski","tag-partneri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32574","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32574"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32574\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32576,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32574\/revisions\/32576"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32575"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32574"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32574"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bihavadis.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32574"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}